How do you make a person see that they need help? You can't. Lines are often blurred and confused for me.
Know that your doing your best to save your family. No matter what your best intentions try to accomplish, it's ultimately her choice in the end.
I do think that in this case, your actions will speak louder than words. By not inviting her you accomplish a few things here. Number one is your GAL and this is for your own peace of mind. Your going to need that peace if your going to survive this ordeal. Secondly, your reminding her of what she will miss if she stays on her present course... the love and security of an intact family. Thirdly, your displaying strength that you can and will move forward and be happy without her if that's her choice. That's an attractive quality from a Woman's perspective.
You can lovingly detach. She has to at least start to understand what her choices will mean in the future.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
