You know, I've read your story and it's unique in the way your W has had very traumatic experiences in her life. Most outside your control. I can see where your lines are blurred as far as your boundaries go between compassion and the objection to her behavior.
Some WAW's I hear about on here I sometimes have a hard time having any sympathy or compassion for. Most are just very selfish and mean whilst they go through their 'change of life', 'MLC', whatever you want to call it. We have contributed to some of that anger, but most the time, their irrational actions are not always justified even if they believe that. Yours is a little different because of what she's been through with the assault and the special needs of your S. It may be in your W's case, she may be emotionally damaged. Justifiable so, but not necessarily your fault.
The fact she resist help is troubling though. If I would have any beef with her, it would be that she won't seek help or counsel. Also, this doctor she has that doesn't believe in medication, dismiss him and seek another doctor. If he has an objection to the comfort and welfare of his patients over moral grounds, then he shouldn't have gone into this field IMHO. Besides, witch doctors don't usually charge a fee so she getting ripped off with this one.
As it stands now, she sounds like a lump on the log. What fun can you have with her at a concert? Don't invite her.
Last edited by Astimegoeson; 06/13/0906:54 AM.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
