I remember that my first year of M was very hard b/c there was so many tramatic events that took place in our lives. If it had not been for our families and upbringing.....there is no way the two of us would have made it through what we did.
Both of you had a very rough time in just a short period. I do not think it is unreasonable to think it could still work out. I believe you are being realistic and hopeful. I encourage you to read the success stories in that forum provided by the board. Also, there are many that have moved on who did have successful outcomes in their marriages but did not continue to stick around, which we can understand that.
You will have days that you will feel very down and wonder why you bother to keep hoping to see something positive. That is normal and don't beat yourself up when it happens. I do want you to be active in doing something to help yourself when you have those days b/c it would not be healthy to just continue to live in a depressed mood. In the little time I have known you through this posting.....I believe you are the type person to do what you need to do to keep moving in a postive direction.
Glad to see you journaling b/c it does help. Remember to reach out to others here on the board b/c I think you have much to offer as the person you are.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
