Logically it makes sense that children or adults of Divorced parents dont do so well. They have to deal with issues, compete for love and time from Parents that are no longer together.
Their secure world is torn apart. There future expectations of family life is destroyed. They ahve to make decisions on almost a daily basis that children of committed parents dont, regarding juggling possible hurt feelings of parents, the need to protect a hurt parent. Often more reponsibility is placed on them as finances change, less available time from separated parents.
They have to share their time, be sure that they communicate not once but twice with parents, decide who is attending what family gatherings, deal with negative comments from well meaning dumb family members.....and so it goes on.
The only good thing possible that might come from this for them , is that as they deal with adversity in their adult lives, better than those wjho have not gone through it as they will know that you can survive, as they see their parents survive.
Remember SP that every feeling you have felt since D Day they will experiance but 10 X worse. They will be torn and will need support and room to grieve an any way they need. As small children that ay manifest itself in any form.
