Wish I could read her mind (9) >>>>

[MrBond]

First thing I would do is stop the arguing.

Just tell her calmly that she wants out, then she needs to file. If she's not going to file, then she cannot use any excuses and blame you for "her" unhappiness.

Simple.

I would just tell her that, then walk away. If she doesn't file, then it's her burden. When a R talk comes up again (which you should avoid as much as possible) and she starts blaming you again, then tell her that you already said what she should do since she was unhappy. When she says she did it for you, tell her it was her choice to do it, so she needs to stop blaming you as being the reason. She has to look at herself and what an ugly person she's become.

I forgot...is there OM? If there is, then I'd kick her out now. She shouldn't have been stringing you along until someone "better" came along.