Stuck I asked her the same question when we had the conversation about OM....she said because I had no where to go, we weren't financially stable enough to support 2 households and she didn't know what I would do if she pushed harder.
Yes, I know, all BS.
This past year, actually at the end of 2007, I started a new job at a company that was getting ready to build a new facility. I have been waiting it out and we just got in about 2 weeks ago. That should change things financially for me very soon. She has carried the load now for a while, but over our marriage it was just the opposite.
That was excuse #1...she was waiting for me to get settled in and for things to improve for ME, not us.
Afraid of how I would react to her pushing?...maybe, if she thought about the previous years. There was yelling and screaming at times, and have freely admitted on here to being a jerk..that's why I'm here.
Did I ever physically abuse her, break things, throw things or threaten harm to her, myself or anyone around me?...NEVER.
I have said before...the past year together not a harsh word between us...not one. That was my first promise to myself the day of the bomb, and it has never been broken.
That was pretty much all she had to say when I asked her...
Why didn't you push?...Why didn't you file for separation?...Why didn't you remind me daily that the marriage was over and you wanted out? This would all be over by now..you would be free and on your way.
"Because you told me you didn't need any reminders...you KNEW I wanted out".
