Did you confront your H about this? Maybe not get upset, but tell him that he shouldn't be doing this to his own S.

Personally, I would cut him off from seeing your S and just get a check from him.

Take care of the finances first so that you can take care of your son's needs.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER