I'm looking for advice on what helped you get through the emotions you felt once you learned about the affair (and were sure it was over). I know I should believe him when he compliments me, takes interest in me, etc., but I'm struggling with the other thoughts that pop into my mind. I do use the "stop" technique at times, but not always. Maybe I am just beating myself up and don't want to hear what he wants me to hear. I know I should believe him because he has given me no reason not to since he told me about the affair. Perhaps I'm just still struggling with believing in myself. So, how did you get yourself out of the hole - or am I still depressed and can't see it?
