My W was the same way at first. Very angry and frustrated and would just be mad at me at the drop of a hat. Finally I told her that she was not going to talk to me like that again and that she should find out why she's mad at me when I hadn't done anything to her.
I think in yours and my sitches, it's their loss of "fun" with their OM. I highlighted some of this stuff in my sitch and it's funny seeing how your position is mirroring mine 5 months behind.
Must be a day for revelations. I just came up with my own that I'm thinking about.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.