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[mishka422]

As for XH's comment about taking care of your son, either ignore it or address it directly: "No, you are not taking care of our son. You are not meeting your legal obligations with respect to support and as a result our son is paying the cost of your unemployment."

Excuse me OT, but that would only serve to bring anger into the middle of a situation there is no control of. He knows exactly what he is and is not doing for his son and there is no need for me to remind him of that.

Gabe does these things 'for me' on his own. I don't ask it of him and half the time he shows up and does it without me ever knowing until afterward. He wants to fix my brakes? Sure, why not? He's not paying CS, the least he can do is save me $200 in labor cost to replace 4 brake shoes!

Take care of yourself. Stop talking and bantering with your XH.

I am taking care of myself. Every damn day that's what I do. Stop bantering with him? I bantered with him about our son. That's the business. There is no need for me to be ugly, mean, destructive, or anything other than myself with him. I wouldn't even treat a dire enemy that way, so why would I treat him that way? That would go against my very nature and do nothing but make me feel bad.

I'm just ticked that he jumped from telling me about having Marc's glasses fixed, to making a point that the broom paid for it. What was he trying to accomplish by that? He thinks we should all be friends, NO. You are right in one respect, he is not my friend, won't ever be my friend again. He did far too much damage and a friend wouldn't do that and remain a friend. He is Marc's dad and as such I will treat him with a degree of friendliness. I do that because it makes me feel good. I do that because to treat him with anger and disrespect would only hurt me and possibly do damage to our co-parenting.