I wish I knew the answer to your question myself! My husband has stopped calling me, blocked my calls, hasn't been out to visit in several weeks now. I miss him and our son is devastated. I know his pattern, he disappears for weeks at a time and then will just walk in the door one day out of the blue and act like nothing is wrong. I do my best to keep his visits friendly and non-confrontational, so why doesn't he want to spend more time with us, especially our son assuming he doesn't care about me anymore? I know he is a workaholic, but work is just no excuse, IMHO, to NEVER spend time with your family. And I refuse to take the blame for him becoming a workaholic, because my MIL has told me that he was like that at his very first summer job in high school, when he was only 16, and he's been like that at every job ever since. I just don't get it. I have been reading Kevin Leman's book Single Parenting That Works, and in it he states that if your spouse wants to be involved in your children's life on a regular basis, by all means let them and don't try to alienate your kids from them. But he also talks about an "in and out" parent who only visits once in a great while, and he says this is worse for the kids than just about anything - it destroys their self-esteem - and if at all possible, you should keep the kids contact with such a spouse to the very minimum possible.
