The one thing your XH had in you that he really missed out on was that you actually talked to him.
That communication is so vital and I think my W and I really let that part go after we had kids. We were talking to each other through our kids before we realized it. We started referring to each other as Mom and Dad rather than each other.
I'm glad things are working better in your current M.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.