OK. Need some advice. It's been a week and as usual H adds to the stress. He just emailed me this: D9 was upset last night. She mentioned that you had been fired in one conversation andindicated that it will or would be OK because god will provide for them. Whatever the situation with your job i am sure you were upset when you talked to the kids. while the kids are growing up and do have a right to know about big events that affect them we cant just confide in them as if they were adults. we have to provide their sense of security. i hope you don't get mad at D9 for mentioning she seemed to be trying to process it. i hope you find adults to talk about things with because kids shouldn't have to. Ok, I did actually talk to y'all here plus my friends in town. I told D9 that I had good news & bad news when I told her. I said I had gotten laid off my job b/c of budget cuts b/c it's a tough economy, but that we were going to be fine. I would be getting paid at the end of this month and next month and would continue to job hunt. I said we were going to be fine and that God has always watched over us and taken care of us. She did cry when I told her, but I talked to her for 5 to 10 minutes after and she seemed ok although obviously she was upset. I told her that we would have more time now, she's been wanting to do some morning walks (to hot in the afternoon now at almost 100 here), and walk past the cows, goats, and horses on our new street and I said we could do that and the summer free kids movies we could go to now.
I told S15 when I got home that I had gotten laid off and would keep job-hunting and everything would be ok. I was very positive about all this and didn't cry or betray any fears and said we can catch up on our homeschooling. I 100% did handle this as well as I could. I never even imagined not telling the kids about the layoff b/c that would be weird to me. It is a major life event, like moving or whatever, they're kind of going to notice, and I think to say nothing to them would be weird. Anway, my ? is do I email back kind of a shortened version of this just saying I did tell them, I was positive about it, and did tell them God is watching over us. I was also thinking I could say thanks for telling me concerns as I will try to get them both into the therapist this week and D9 will have to miss some summer camp, b/c it does sound like she could use a visit to the therapist with all the stuff that's gone on in her life the past year or whatever. Or should I email nothing, just set the kids up for appt. and ignore him? I have 2 concerns: I'm about to do a possible custody battle, so want to do this as perfectly as I can, but I do love to ignore his rants!!! And btw, I would never ever get mad at D9 for being upset about this or telling her dad. WTH? And btw, if you've been following the whole glasses thing with H, he took her to summer camp this am and forgot the glasses at his place so she didn't have them today nor did he pack her a snack. (I brought her one at snack time). Do I email him my concerns about his parenting--no I do not.... Karen
