Thanks for your responses. Mlj, I was a "lurker" for awhile, too, before I started to post I too hate it when he goes out for hours and doesn't say where he is going. If I dwell on it, I just get mad that he thinks he has the "right" to treat me with so little consideration. And he does the same thing - heads down to the basement saying little to nothing usually when he comes in.
I have seen some positive changes in his particularly the last couple of weeks. He is finally taking an interest in the house and yard and projects that need to be done for the first time in MONTHS. I am not sure what, if anything, that means. He has more time with work slowed down but he is also choosing to be home more it seems. He also is not only spending more time with the kids and actually connecting with them rather than just being near them, if that makes sense. He has even been more friendly with me and making more eye contact. He even seems to be telling me more where he is going/what he is doing (though I don't necessarily believe everything I hear).
I am not sure whether to be CAUTIOUSLY optimistic or not. He still is displaying replay behavior (though that seems to be settling a bit) and spending lots of money (seriously, it is like all reason is gone) though. And then there are the moody days.
Cat, my H also went through a QLC crisis probably about 10 years ago though it was very mild and he even acknowledged it recently (but not calling it a "crisis"). He obviously didn't deal with things then so here we are again. Do you think your husband is starting to emerge or not?
This is also the hardest thing I have gone through. It can be hard to not take the rejection personally,even knowing it is mostly their issue rather than much of antything to do with you.
