What to do

[GoBison]

Ok so on Monday I came home from a weekend away and the wife told me that she wanted a divorce and that there were no if and's or but's about it.

On Tuesday I spoke with DB coach and he suggested that I write her a letter telling her what I enjoyed in life, that I was sorry for my shortcomings and that I wished her the best in life. All she said in reply was thanks. The next night she was completely cold and wrongingly so I tried to ask her if there was anything that I could do to make things better. She just said that she wanted a D and that was it. We talked a little about R mostly provoked by me wrong.

Not able to take the cold treatment and trying to do what she wanted with a D. I packed up somethings and left that morning. I text her when I got to work and wished her the best in her life and that we could meet in a couple of weeks to discuss what to do with house, dogs etc.

I have not contacted her since then and she did not reply back to my text. I left on Thursday morning and it is now Friday afternoon.

Maybe I shouldn't have left. I should have just left her with the letter and not brought up any R talk. However her being cold and just disappearing into the bedroom whenever I was there was more than I could take and I wanted to give her as much space as I could. And that space included me not being there.

It has been a difficult day today not calling or texting her to see if there was anything that she needed or how she was doing. What to do next is the big question. How long do I wait until I try to contact her. Do I just let it go until she contacts me and if so what if it is weeks. It is not what DB says to do but if I want to be there for her to see if there is anything I can do or say that will make all this go away I would in a heartbeat.

So mostly I am just journaling hoping to waste some more time until we talk again unfortunately I think that will not be for a week or better if it is on her terms.