I've made some horrible reactive decisions and reacted so badly in the past few weeks, pushing H further out the door. He says it's just too late for our marriage to be saved now. I guess there was a "sliver of hope" he says. But in recent weeks, I killed that hope. I don't know if I can get it back now or not. The way I have reacted to finding out about his EAs makes him "afraid" of me.
With all due respect, EO, that's bull$hit. And it's typical infidelity "script" to boot. You showed that you weren't willing to live in an open marriage? And there's supposedly something WRONG about that, that it makes him "afraid" of you??? WTF???
Well, truth dart time, honey: "If it scares you that I would stand up for myself and not be willing to live with an open marriage, then that's your issue, not mine."
I've studied affairs for three years now -- thousands of them. I would estimate that in 98% of them that were exposed, the cheating spouse says "Well, NOW you BLEW it!! I WAS thinking about getting back together, but YOU CAN FORGET THAT NOW!!!" . . . or something VERY similar to it.
Honestly, can't these people come up with something ORIGINAL at least???
