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[ernest88]

First off somebody tell me what AOS is so I don't have to go into the abbreviations thread to look it up..I know what FOS is

We don't do much of that over on the "Filty, Lying, Cheating Bastards" Thread. That has such a better ring to it than infidelity, doesn't it?

if you're gonna rename it..then throw the words "two timin" in there somewhere...if it don't work as a forum title...us folks in Tennessee can make a country song out of that title..

[Reincarnated]

I missed you, Mike! You did stop posting there for a while...

AOS=acts of service

Mish - glad to hear you are keeping on. So much of it is in the attitude, and I know that you are going through the wringer right now - not the easiest thing to do and keep your chin up through it all.

[mishka422]

We're all about the laughs around here! Have to do that or cry!

Oh yeah, AOS men are fine with me. Quite a few things get done around my house without me ever asking. I have called Gabe my 'lawn fairy' a few times. It just cracks me up calling him a fairy!

Oh, you boys from TN can definitely make a country song out of just about anything. I think my favorite is still "She Thinks My Tractor's Sexy"! Gotta love those farmer's tans....especially if they happen to be on Kenny Chesney's fine biceps. Of course, he is a little midget man though!

Woo Hoo!!!!! Keith Urban tomorrow night!!!!!! Staying overnight in ATL because I plan on partying as hard as this 38 year old 'proper' girl can! HA!

[dday101798]

haha, I only read back a few pages of this and now I know I have to go through the whole thing.

AOS? Well, XW has OM for that, so I'll spare M from TN to translate: nothing gets done. not my problem, she even had the gall to ask if I'd fix her car. Nope, I've been replaced, if I'm not good enough to be a H, I'm certainly not good enough to be your mechanic.

And I love the suggestion for renaming the infidelity section, it's pertfect! thumbsup all around.

[mishka422]

Hey dday! Welcome to the jungle! I was joking with my Thursday night group last night and telling them your word....condolations. That was really good!

Do yourself a favor though. Don't read back about 3 or 4 days ago. I was in a pretty foul mood. Of course, good 'ol VOR (Voice of Reason/aka - M from TN) kicked my butt around some along with Jeff and a few others. They know how to get my head out of the dark places pretty well by now.

You'll do good here! Don't think of it as not being good enough to be her H, think of it as you were too good to put up with her ROC! (That would be ration of crap!)

[mishka422]

Quick question for you all.....

Next weekend is Father's Day. In the D agreement it states that on Mother's Day/Father's Day that parent can have the child regardless of who's weekend it is. That being said, I know Gabe. He doesn't give a flip about holidays, birthdays, or the like so will not have thought of this. Other than making sure that Marc calls his dad on Father's Day to wish him a happy day, should I even suggest that he use his right to have Marc with him on that day or just leave it to him to ask if he wants to spend the day with him? My inclination is to just not say one word about it. His loss if he loses a possible day with his son, right? He chose to lose his whole life with him anyway.

Ok, never mind, think I answered my own question while I wrote it out here. Helps to get it out into the cyber-world so I can work it through.

Thank y'all!

[BobbiJo]

Yep you answered it. If he wants that day, he has the right to it, he can ask for it. Unless, of course, you make yourself fabulous plans for the day. Then just 'remind' Gabe that he 'gets' Marc for the day and go have fun!!

[mishka422]

Oh GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!! I swear...and did several times already....Gabe drives me nuts!

I texted to ask him if Marc was ready when he got there to pick him up at 9am this morning. Marc is like me...not a morning person...so when I got him up just as I was leaving for work he was doing his best imitation of a zombie. He had packed his bag already so all he had to do was get dressed but even that can be a bit much without me there prodding him. Gabe answered and we bantered back and forth for a minute about Marc and that was that. Then he sends me another text to 'let me know' that they went to Wal-mart after they picked him up and the broom got Marc's glasses adjusted for him. I told Gabe that was good but he knows Marc will just have them totally out of whack again by next week. Apparently he felt it was important that I knew that the broom paid to have this done and also paid for the bike that Gabe got him at a yard sale.

OK....I need to know this why? Am I supposed to be all grateful to her now? Am I supposed to tell her what a wonderful person she is because she got my son a used bike and had his glasses fixed? Well, let's see.......um......NO! I asked Gabe what his point is. If I owed her something or if she did this based on her own decision. He said I didn't owe her anything but he wanted me to know that Marc was being taken care of even though he wasn't working. EXCUSE ME?????????? Is he insinuating that I don't take care of him? I don't have the money to fix the glasses he keeps breaking. I work two jobs so I don't have time to go to yard sales looking for a bike for Marc when he needed one. SERIOUSLY? WTF is he saying here? I'm so po'd I could scream!

[mishka422]

Oh yeah....did I mention that he again said he wishes we could all get along better but he still cares and will help me however he can.

Good God!!! Why won't he drop this? Why does he think that I'm going to start being buddies with the woman that was a catalyst for the end of my M? SICK!

[dday101798]

Hey dday! Welcome to the jungle! I was joking with my Thursday night group last night and telling them your word....condolations. That was really good!

Yep, sometimes I even surprise myself with my own whit.

To answer your question: He should know it is his day and you should not have to "remind" him. I'm still not up to the particulars of your situation, but he sure sounds like my XW who certainly did look into the parperwork she signed other than for only where money was concerned. He should know his right to the day and should be jumping at it on his own.

You could play on it a bit and do as suggested tho, make plans for the day and call him and ask when he's picking his son up as you're going out, it's "your day" anyway. Although holiday visitation hours pretty much dictate the pick up time.

I do not understand at all the games they play with how 'wonderful' OP is. At least in my case, it's the other way around, I get or do whatever I can for my boys. XW and OM on the other hand seem to enjoy floating through life living in a provided home, no utility bills and not going to work half the time. Must be nice.