Why not?

[MrBond]

Fear is the one thing that holds us back from doing alot of things. We are all facing that right now.

Fact is in your sitch, your H is pretty much gone physically and his head is somewhere over the rainbow. So the brutal truth is that you are going to have to rely on your own strength to get you through this.

When we all get married, we think this is it and we change our priorities to include our spouses, kids, life in general. But those things are our choices. Then when a D comes up, we're forced to re-evaluate those priorities again and it becomes scary because this time it isn't our choice. It's someone elses. That's why we get sent into freefall because suddenly the control we had in our lives was taken away.

Remember the strengths you had when you were single. You didn't need your H then. You don't need him now. Sure it's going to be tougher than hell, but I think we all come out stronger whether we go through a D or not.

Rather than looking at the sitch as a whole, take it on a little at a time. If you still want to work on getting him back, that's great, you can still do that, yet work on yourself in the event that he doesn't.

You can do it. Like they say...the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.