How Do You Forgive?

[eternaloptimist]

Just talked to H on the phone. I'm trying to figure out FOR ME how to feel, think, and act. Do I keep DBing living in the same house for the next year? I think so but H still ambivalent it will work w/out major conflict. He wants to know how will deal with "stuff," like going to the neighbors for parties, visits with family, getting our individual needs met (i.e., dating other ppl?) How do I handle this stuff? Should we both try dating opening as if we are separated but in the same house? Let him see what other kind of women are out there? Same for me? Or is this counter-productive for DBing?

Since #1 is off the table and now SHE has to deal with the fact that she's lost her job and will possibly be under further investigation by the state licensing board, I seriously doubt they pushed the EA underground. I imagine she has her hands full with all sorts of financial and emotional messes. Still, H is in same place with not wanting to work on marriage.