Wish I could read her mind (9) >>>>

[steady]

nds I feel for you. Reading your current situation brought back the day I was sitting in the MC's office and the words, "I don't want to be married to you anymore" came out of my W's mouth. It certainly was a punch to the stomach. I too didn't start off with anger. More of a, well I guess this is the way it's going. But as time progressed and she wasn't getting what she imagined was her plan for getting out she became more and more angry, bitter, etc... and her behavior toward me deteriorated. That's when my anger started.

Today, most of the time I could care less. (Notice I said most of the time) I'm focusing on what I need to do for me and my kids now. So little time focused on her.

nds you can move through this. People told me that 6 months ago and I'm recently realizing they were right. In the early days, weeks, months I doubted what they said, but now I see. But in the end, it made no difference back then because it was all too raw.

Just a word of warning, not a prediction of things to come: Start making a plan for yourself (this will help keep your mind off the sitch also). Start protecting yourself - money, house, etc... I know you're probably thinking, nah, she won't do any of that - and I made the same mistake. They are capable of doing the unthinkable. Mine morphed into a monster - I don't recognize the woman I knew/know her to be.

I felt the same way about coming here when the rebomb happened - I had a period there when I disappeared, but it was when I needed to be here the most. Just come here and read your own thread. Stay out of the other one's because your mind will move all over the place depending on if the thread is moving north or south. Don't make the same mistake I made.

Come here and dump and do it regularly. Later on, you'll be happy you did.