How Do You Forgive?

[eternaloptimist]

Basically, yes. I believe I had posted to you earlier (was going to copy and paste it, but you had so many threads going, I couldn't find it LOL) that there were three different explanations as to why the EA seemed to be over:

1. They had agreed to "cool it", and that your H was terrified that he might cost OW her job.
2. They had pushed the affair underground
3. OW had dumped your husband

Now that she's LOST her job, #1 would be off the table, so it would be interesting to see now what happens.

H told me this week that he didn't care if I reported her, that the relationship wasn't as strong or as important to him as I think it was, that he doesn't even think about her.

Yes, I know, but you can't go by what he says, because ALL CHEATERS LIE -- period.

Just stay detached and keep working on YOU.

Puppy

I feel so frustrated, Puppy. I'm a smart woman but I have no idea what to think or do now. To quote my H from our MC session today, "we are stuck." We can't afford to get divorced, we can't afford to separate. But he doesn't know how we will live together for the next year. It is clear that he doesn't want to put any effort into working on the marriage ever... I think the EA is really over, along with my marriage.