Mulesqb - A Day in Court

[mulesqb]

Hey guys - I hope all is well with everyone. Being a single dad with 3 boys living at home full time has kept me incredibly busy. Between schoolwork, laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc...it's been hard. I do recognize that I have to start making time for myself. And I am working on that.

My STBXW's family has been helping me a lot lately as my parents went on vacation. They have been extremely supportive of me and recognize what has happened and feel badly for it. My family and friends have been amazing. The end of the school year has been particularly stressful as S11 has struggled in school. I thought everything with him was going well but got a phone call from school a few weeks back alerting me that he was only bringing home his good grades and not the bad. So we have been working very hard the past few weeks to prepare for the finals and get through this.

STBXW is almost comical in her avoidance of parental time. She sees the boys just a few hours a week. She's always late, always leaves early and cancels often. The boys and her family are onto her BIG time. She has had some medical issues lately as well and looks awful. I try to be cordial but view her as not my problem any more. When we are in each others company she can't make eye contact with me and tries to talk in a sweet, almost apologetic voice. I am very business like towards her. Unfortunately, that's all I have to give right now. Maybe down the road that will change, maybe it won't.

I am starting to have dates. I have 4 lined up in the next week. Just looking to meet some women and have fun and see where it takes me. I have recognized that I need some adult time, and friends and family are pushing me to do so.

Things are good. Occasionally I get sad, but for the most part am very happy at t he way I handled this, and where I am at given the circumstances. Her aunt watched the boys last night until I got home from work. When I got home I ate dinner with her and we talked. She told me that she thinks I have handled this situation incredibly and is extremely proud of me. She told me that she has had many arguments with my ex about this lately and is just fed up in trying to talk to her. It did make me feel good to hear her say those words to me. I have always had tremendous respect for her family. She told me that STBXW has a problem that they remain close to me. But she said that they told her straight out that I have never treated them or her wrong and that there is no reason for us to end our relationship due to her bad decisions.

Anyway - that's where I am. I would love to spend more time here and update and help others. It's just going to take a while for me until I get settled into my routine better. I don't have a lot of spare time right now. But I will get there. It does kill me to come back to this site and read some of the stories and remember what I was going through a year ago. The emotions are still fresh. But I have learned from them.

Strength and Honor.