I always wondered if separation would highlight the fact that things were better together....even though problems persist....I get the sense that a sudden "loss" as it were of the other person would "loosen things up".....am I off base here? Thought's?
Depends on the sitch and the background. Our home-life is/was fraught with debt and stress and chaos, kids, boxes from our last move etc. Lots of distance already between us. So, him going out on the town with famous people and getting his ego stroked could only feel better than this. It is like trying to compete with alcohol. I can't take the edge off of our life for him. We have to be able to look at it and tackle it a bit at a time. It is happening but only with D on the table compelling its necessity (it being dealing with our "problems").
