My story starts about 5 1/2 years ago. I was 33 at the time and so was my husband, we had a 1 year old son. I developed a severe infection (something like MRSA) and ended up in multiple organ failure. I almost died. I was told I would need constant care until I made a full recovery as I was at high risk of cardiac arrest. My husband has a very time consuming job with a lot of travel so he could not be my primary provider. Although it was a very hard decision for us, we decided to sell our house, our son and I would go live with my parents and my mom would become my primary caregiver, and my husband would go live with his parents one state away. This has all worked out very well until this past January, when the DR FINALLY gave me a clean bill of health, and my husband proceeded to inform me that he didn't want us to live together as a family again. I did have some inkling that something was going on because for the past couple of years he has only been visiting us a couple of weekend afternoons each month instead of coming over every time he had a day off from work. A few weeks ago, he started blocking calls from my home phone and my cell phone so I can't get in touch with him at all, I have to wait for him to call me. He also recently dumped me off our joint insurance policy without telling me in advance - I only found out when I got a letter from the company about it! I have been told by mutual friends that they think he has another woman living with him but he has vehemently denied it so I honestly don't know. He's always been something of a porn and sex addict and I guess I kind of expected there was no way he could stay faithful to me when we haven't been able to be intimate in over 5 years now (DRs orders as I couldn't do anything that might raise my blood pressure too much). I don't know where to go from here. His behavior has made it quite clear to me that he no longer has any interest in restoring our marriage. I'm not really angry because I can't say as I blame him, but I wish he had told me this BEFORE the DR gave me permission to resume a normal life! As it is, he has caught me off guard. He also told me he is not interested in getting a divorce, at least at this point in time. He does pay a minimal amount of money to my parents every month to support me and our son and I don't know if the only reason he wants to stay married might be that the courts would make him pay me a LOT more than he already is. Just a couple of other additions to this story are that my in-laws hate me, my parents hate my husband, my husband is currently visiting us about once every 6 weeks, and my son has reached a point of being very hurt and angry with his father for ceasing his regular visits. Even when he calls and promises to come on a given day, he ends up not showing. I am more than willing to try to work on our marriage, but how can I do that when I hardly ever even see him anymore? It's hard to show someone you love them when you see them MAYBE 4 hours a month. I've tried to talk to him about "US" and every time I bring up the subject he walks out the door and leaves. And I can't touch him either - every time I try, he jumps away like he's been burned. I just don't know what to do at this point. All the time I have been recovering from being so ill, I have held on to the future and the hope of having my family back together again and now it's breaking my heart that apparently that is NOT going to happen.
