How can the experience hurt you? It can't and he COULD be a bit more down than most b/c um....oh yeah, he's leaving. Either due to burn out that MAY not happen to you OR due to problems HE had, that you MAY not have....and in the meantime if all his stuff is valid, you have more experience on your resume and you are in a much better position to look for work FROM a job than without one. Seriously. These are tough times. "Waiting for another opportunity" --why would that same opportunity NOT come, if you took this job? Honey it will or it won't and in the meantime you will have some moolah in your bank acct. The ONLY downside to this IF there is one, is legal. Does your L say not to earn $$ while waiting for a property settlement/alimony (some states care, some don't, and I forgot where you are) but the discrepancy in income COULD matter. Sometimes being poor is a good thing, like when the WAS is way better off. Can you ask your L or did you guys already cover this? My L told me not to get work for awhile but the real reason I waited was the child psych saying "Oh, if you get a full time job NOW, your child will have lost both parents..." so that stung a bit. I wanted to work to start the GAL process...
As for your h's opinion....yeah, he has/had some good qualities and it sucks to miss them. Can't lie about that. But then again, he is a workaholic and...he's not here now. You need new "professional mentors" or best friends.
GAL --- I went to a jewelry making class (well, there was also wine tasting...) which is something that bores the hell out of me BUT I went b/c there were some pretty funny people and it was a stretch (and the wine tasting was good....) and part of GAL with or without h, since I need to take my own advice and not wait for h to come home (whether from the cancer place with his mom or from being a WAS. Meaning, regardless of why the spouses are gone and even if you know they're returning, our lives cannot be about waiting for them and just filling in time with superficial activities until they return...make sense?)
It's not my cup of tea (No, it's WINE!! okay, sorry I digress) but you know, GAL is partly trial and error.
Anyhow, sorry about the sad sad grief part of this, and wish I could spare you some. I know the move will help. When will that take place?
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
