but clearly he is unnerved by this limbo (he's sleeping on a couch at a friend's) and motivated to get out.
Get that out of your head. In fact, you don't know either way if he is unnerved or is freaked out. My bet is the latter, but you should be focusing on you because you'll drive yourself nutzo.
It is not "ironic" that he is doing the things you've asked for in the past and him telling you things is likely designed to hurt you. You may find out later that it was just a trap and he hasn't done anything with anyone. Don't fall for that trap. As was said, set the boundary and MEAN IT.
You are totally awesome! Scary awesome! Keep it up. Change is coming....
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
