I have not asked her where she wants to be in 6 months and maybe you are right that I need to start shifting the focus from me onto her. Asking her what she wants out of this R, where she sees us being in 6 months and what are her thoughts on intimacy. I was thinking sort of the same thing while I was writting my post this morning.
As for the ex, I don't feel the need to discuss him, in my opinion he is not worth wasting anymore energy on his sorry ass than I already have but an apology from her for their inappropriate R would be nice and an acknowledgement that she has done wrong and hurt me would also be nice.
And its not that I have not forgiven myself it is her that continues to carry it around and use it as a shield or a defense mechanism and that is what irritates me and wants me to just say "get the fu** over it already." But the MC says to give her more time and I will. The MC says she sees progress so I will use more patience and continue on for the time being.
Thanks fo the birthday wish WT, its not till the 22 so I still have a week or so before I'm a year older.
