That is pretty much it in a nut shell but it still seems like it was all about me and what I did wrong and her getting over my stuff to move the R forward. It’s like what about the things you did to contribute to our problems and how about an apology for the things she has said and done. Sometimes I feel that it is so one sided and its all about me but it took two to get us here and she had a hand in how all this went down and lets not forget the ex a**hole in all of this. Sorry a little rant to end it. Just needed to get that off my chest and out of my head.
When are you going to forgive yourself? I sense you are still walking on eggshells a bit, catering to your wife. As long as you allow her to continue to talk ONLY about your contribution to all this, that's all you're going to talk about. It feels, to me that you're both going to MC so she can 'get fixed'. And I'm not denying for one minute that you are where you need to be - I know that MC is a safe place for you both to be able to discuss things. But it doesn't sound like things are moving forward. Where does she want to be in 6 months? Where does she want to be when the kids are out of the house?
If this stuff about her Ex is still bothering you, why aren't you bringing that up when you have a session? Because you're concerned she'll stop going?
