So it begins to bring my wife home

[eternaloptimist]

Hi - I don't know your sitch but just wanted to say hello and offer support. Have you been to any kind of MC? If your wife keeps having affairs, do you know what needs she has that she is seeking outside the marriage? I'm no affair expert by any means, but thinking about this question has helped me to DB more effectively.

H and I are both very passionate people who feel and express love and pain in very dramatic ways. I'm in a very co-dependent, conflict-ridden, marriage too and find it very hard to stay the course with GALing, acting As If b/c of the basic emotional vibrations in our relationship. We have the classic push/pull going on.

Recently, I decided to write down some goals for myself for the next year. I'm very goal-oriented, so hopefully this will bring me back to a place of emotional stasis no matter what H decides to do.