The thing is (IMO of course) Kevin never had an identity as an individual man. He based his worth and happiness on his W and kids and prior to marriage he has admitted he was not happy or complete.
It is *very* painful to be left in a marriage. We all know that. But its also a true opportunity to begin to create your own identity as an individual person. And really, if you think about it how many people get this golden opportunit at the age of 34? Not many. And if people are being honest and you ask 100 people if they would like the opportunity to really recreate who they are they would probably jump at the chance. For some reason though Keven is highly resistant to this opportunity.
And yes, it sucks such an opportunity was born of terrific pain but it *is* an opportunity none the less. What Keven chooses to do with that opportunity is up to him. But one thing I can assure you of is if you dont take this opportunity now and jump in with both feet you will regret it for the rest of your life.
You can keep walking down dead end roads or you can turn around and seek out that road with all kinds of twists and turns. And twists and turns are way better than a dead end street.
