I know it is very very very difficult when our spouses come in all pis*ed off. But you know what my DB coach said? She said that if one person is depressed, what is the good if you empathize and then you have two depressed people? She said that when one spouse is depressed, the other one should be cheerful and happy and light, to balance the mood a bit.
So I think that should be the same when one spouse is angry. It won't mend a thing if the other one 'mirrors' their behavior. We should be happy and light and fun! Those are the 180's that Michele talks about. The exact opposite of what the WAS is expecting.
So next time she is around you and is upset, think of a funny image in your head (you may want to prepare that image ahead of time) then walk in like a breath of fresh air and change the mood of the room.
You can do it!
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
