In my opinion she's lying about the attorney. She's pretending he's not doing what she's asking him to do so she doesn't have to listen to it from you. She's paying this guy- he works for her- and he's doing exactly what she's asked him to do.
She's keeping you close enough- she wants to be "friends" through this divorce. That is why she is playing the good guy here and making him the bad guy. Let her know if she wants to divorce you have no plans on being her friend.
PLEASE talk with your own lawyer before you end up getting the shaft. That's what she's setting up to do, IMO. Please get some legal help.
