Advice on DB-ing when sep spouse lives at home

[peacetoday]

Yes this is the script
the crazy, erratic behavior
the bomb
the disappearing acts
the withdrawal

watch your bank accounts
they spend
secretly they spend so they will try to cover this up if at all possible
take care of yoursself
therapy is helpful for LBS
usually MLCer will not go or they will quit claiming M is over
OW are usually already in place
try to have no R talks
go about your life, caring for your kids
try to validate and appreciate MLCEr ( difficult)
but that seems to get them to talk to us again
good luck
peace