In the beginning when my H left I was about 123 pounds give or take. I'm 103 pounds now. It can take it's toll on you, but you have to stay positive. I had days when I couldn't even think. I had to leave work and go home and just do God knows what. BUT I am much better now and to be honest, I recognize the potential for us to divorce and it scares me, but I'm still taking care of me first and foremost. I figure taking care of me allows me to take better care of my S and my relationhips and my job. I won't tell you to stop thinking about her and the situation, but I will say keep it all under control. If you feel antsy or anxious, don't call her. Calm down first. Only make decisions when you are calm and collected. You'll be grateful you did. She is in a lot pain too. Maybe when the time is right, you let her know that in a very caring way. I did for my H, when I was finally able to get past the angry "How dare he do this to us?" and it went a long way.
