I wondered if I could get some advice here. I was fuming last night and this morning so I thought I would calm down a bit before posting!
I don't know how to handle this one.
He sent me this email last night.
Hi, get the standard today. There's an article about (my work)!
Got your message about exchanging. They rang me too. Just wish they would bloody get on with it!
I have only one free weekend between now and mid-August believe it or not, so I have kept next weekend free completely and also reserved a van for both days. Are you happy for me to take some stuff out like desk etc. next weekend? Happy to help you with stuff too.
Sorry we never got round to lunch, I forgot but I've got a gig at the races tomorrow so I'm on a train right now. Next week?
H.
My quandaries are 1. It feels like he has all the power over this lunch thing. It was just supposed to be a casual lunch set up a few weeks ago and I feel crap about it. I know it has been a horrendous work week but a quick email/ text a bit earlier to say sorry but he was away on Friday wouldn't have hurt. I hate this leaving everything to the last minute, it makes me feel as if my life revolves around him and I hate that!
2. About a month ago we had a long discussion about how he would help me move. Hire a van etc and do it together. Now, from this email, it seems to be all about him. I won't be able to find somewhere and be ready by next weekend. It seems to have turned back to all being about him again (was it ever not??). How do I get this across that it doesn't solve the problem of how I am now going to move (yes I could hire a firm but I don't have the money and the other guy I had to help now has other plans as I said I didn't need him).
3. H sent me a text this morning asking if I got his email last night. WTF?? I don't respond instantly and he pursues. When I want something, nothing. I have just ignored that text and don't intend to respond- a 180 for me, or spite I'm not sure.
It was funny because I spent the last few days being jealous of ow and I got that email and just thought 'yeah, good luck ow'. I took off the rose coloured glasses and realised, yes he has always been like this (I remember instances with his parents etc) however he wasn't with me. I suppose as I am no longer special I am lumped with the 'I'll be crap with you generally' people.
What do I do with that email? How do I get him to move me? And what do I do about the lunch question.
What I want is To discuss things with me instead of informing me. For him to help me move my stuff into the new place. Jody suggested I invite him along to view places with me (perhaps this could be instead of lunch which I don't even want to do anymore).
Sigh! P.S - on the plus side, work is going really well, I should finish all my packing tomorrow and it is my nieces christening this weekend where I will be god mother and my friend had a baby today! Life isn't all that bad then!
