Thanks V for what you said. That is what I think too. Right now thoughts are coming up, realizations are being made and so far we have been able to share with each other.
H is seeing things for the first time, and the stuff I have been telling him for three years never got attached, so it is like a new R, getting reaquainted.
Yesterday I was upset about something at work - he attempted old way of just telling me what he would do - this time I stopped him to explain that we function differently - when I am upset this is what I need from you - and he just did it. Afterwards we talked about how everything is new for him, but he is learning.
For the first time he is seeing that altho I am strong, I have my moments when I need help or support. Funny, I didn't know he wasn't getting it - I just thought he didn't care. He also thought he was much needier and is finding out he is stronger than he thinks. Good stuff.
So you think that I am right when I say that most people here wouldn't try to help because of the sitch?
