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[JR09]

I called my WAW last night to tell her when I could link up with our boys again (I live 900 miles away from my W and kids. I am active duty military). I asked her about her health, her hobbies, the boys. She responded very nicely all the time. She also was pleased to know that I can link up soon with the boys again for 2 weeks.
She then asked me if I had received any answers from civilian job applications. I told her that I already had a job here in the service (I just cannot quit the service like I'd quit a civilian job. It's not that easy to do). She's been asking me this question off and on during the past 4 months. Is she hinting that she'd rather have me leave the service? I don't get it. The service is my only job. It is what puts food on my table and her table. It's what pays all our bills at this time.

Anyway, she didn't push the issue. She just asked me the question. I didn't react to it and answered very calmly that I already have a job for now. Then we switched to something else.

It's been a year now since my wife left. I have been very patient for the past year. I still love my wife very much. Maybe even more today. I am doing my best to DB and not push any issues at all, always staying calm when I call my wife each week. Other than being patient and continuing what I'm doing, what else can I do ? What other 180 or DB technique can I apply at this time?

My wife doesn't mention the divorce when we talk. She even hasn't pursued it at all legally speaking. It has been filed in JAN 09, but nothing has been done about it since then. We are now in JUN 09. I checked with the court. Nothing at all. I think my WAW would have pursued it if she really wanted to be divorced by now...But no action at all.

Anyway. Just venting. Maybe need some advice on what to do next after 1 year of separation. I am excited to see my 3 boys in a few weeks. Sure would like to invite my wife to come along. Is that appropriate or discouraged?

Thanks for any input.

JR09