I ask these questions many times a day: 1) Is what I am about to do or say going to draw this person (spouse) closer or push them farther away? Make your choice wisely. 2) Is the decision I am about to make in the best interest of my kids? If it is, then the decision is good for ME. 3) Has this method worked in the past? If not, do something different, maybe a 180....
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Thank you so much for this. I'm new here and I've not had any responses to my post, but I've gained so much from everything I've read.
Something happened that upset me today and I thought of this. Numbers 1 & 3 in particular. Number one made me keep my mouth shut, which appears to be disturbing him. LOL! And, number three made me realize that I've been doing the same thing over and over again and, of course, I'm getting the same results.
