confused.....want to do something.....

[Kenn]

Sometimes that feeling of loneliness really can be over-powering.

Yes it can and learning to enjoy your own company can be one of the most daunting tasks. But you will and then you'll be in a much better position to decide what you want next... We've been there before (prior to our first marriage)and never gave it a thought... right?

I think it was so nice to see people having full lives....it made me feel my loss even more.....

How many people have come to you and said they were shocked or surprised by your situation? What you are seeing is a perception. I hope they all are living full lives but there is a chance that many of them are headed for trouble. Your "loss" ... "our" loss is making us a better person, taking us out of a situation where we didn't even know we were struggling, and giving us the awareness to make our realtionships better. A loss in the sense that our spouses are not with us right now but a gain in giving us a better chance at a truly happy future perhaps[/quote]

I really have to be my own best friend today. That is the goal!

I am so glad you have found people you like. It is tough when you are the single on in a pool of people that are married. It is hard to find people that have the same free time as we do. But it comes with time. My biggest sense of loneliness right now is when I have a major success at work and have no one to share it with. so I know what you mean about feeling a loss. But just remember you do have friends, may not be able to sit and have a cup of coffee in person but you do have friends And the others will start to come out of the works. One day you will be surprised that you don't have enough time and look back and think wow, I was all by myself once.