WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

I've calmed down a bit now. I just realized that I need to stick with my original strategy - get through the legal/financial mumbo jumbo relative to her filing for a divorce.

I will maintain my NUT that if I don't feel like I am treated fairly, I will "man up".

I will not be continued to be dragged into the past blame game.

I will continue to be a friend when we are in contact (although with this most recent interaction, it may be never).

I will remain Dark - will not initiate contact unless its related to the kids.

The issue I need to think through is how do I regain trust? I've read in a number of post, it comes down to consistent changes. She has lost trust in me, relative to, trusting me with her heart. How the heck do I regain that type of trust?!!??!