WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

You should have called her out on it and told her to tell you the truth. She was retreating into the "you're yelling" mode. When she said she was hanging up, tell her that it was in her best interest that this L doesn't keep taking away money that is hers. Maybe try spinning it to see how she could benefit.

I would get your L to protect YOU first and foremost though. Your W isn't even thinking straight. She just wants to stay in her land of make believe and is probably just trusting everything this guy is telling her. He can probably see that she's easy to take for a ride.

Do what you need to do.

I did tell her how I felt the lawyer was just trying to rack up billable hours to blow through the ratiner. She said that there wasn't anything that she could do as it was non-refundable. I told her that I talked to a lawyer about that and it was not true. Non-refundable retainers are under review in our state whether it is enforceable so there are ways to get the money back.

I do have a lawyer that is going to protect me - he actually mentored her lawyer (they are in different firms).

I was tempted to call my lawyer to just deal with it, but still didn't want to let her know I retained someone. I want her to think that I'm still trying to work with her because I trust her. If this doesn't play out over the next couple of days, I will throw that out on the table.

I think she is afraid that I will retain someone as she knows that I have the means to really drag this thing out. I won't though, as I don't want to spend all the money just to make it hard. I just want it to be fair for the boys in this totally unfair situation.

Craziness...