I once had a conversation with a older Woman on this very subject. I'm 47 and she was about 55/56 or so. We were talking about MLC and how about 1/2 of us go thorough it (men and woman). I kind of have the feeling she went through it even if she didn't say so. To much knowledge not to have some experience with this. She was divorced and seemed relatively resigned and content to her situation in life.
She told me she thinks Men have less tolerance and patients to wait out what their spouse was going through. In other words, she said Men don't have the ability to 'stand' for a significant period of time as Woman do. I got the feeling she was disappointed her ex didn't wait for her to go through it.
I think she described me in some ways.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
I agree that we don't have the patience that women do, especially in matters such as these. There are exceptions, as there always are...but for the most part, we want what we want...and we want it NOW!
It doesn't do us any good to be this way either.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
Do you think I'm a chick? I made sweeping generalizations about my own gender. And I don't feel sorry for myself...why would I? I still think there are differences between a walk away wife and a walk away husband...although obviously no one fits the mold.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
I think DBing does work differently for men and for women, particularly when infidelity is a factor (which it usually is whether you know it or not).
At the end of the day, DBing is doing whatever works and avoiding whatever doesn't work - whatever "that" is.
As for this...
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I got the feeling she was disappointed her ex didn't wait for her to go through it [her MLC].
What *@#!ing planet is this woman from? I can abandon my husband, bang other men and then expect my distraught husband to take me back when I'm bored of it all and over it?
So it's all about her then - still?
That entitlement mentality does nothing but disgust me.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
