I'm going to throw one last toss of the coin here for me...
Not thinking about your W is hard - I know that...I'll share an IMO with you ..most LBS's think about their WASs as much as you do...and I think that's quite natural...but...
They also recognise the futility of that...they recognise that those thoughts are not productive and they start to get a life and post about other stuff...
The brutal fact is Kev - by consistently refusing to deal with that you are alienating the fantastic people who are in the very very best position to help you...
Soon you will have no-one here and you will be asking "anyone?" to an empty auditorium - they'll all have gone home...
The only thing the folks who have stood by you through this are asking is for you to do something genuine for yourself- which absolutely does not include going to a poker game - which apparently you were not so sh!t hot anyway.
Tell us Kev - just tell us - apart from your W and kids...what floats your boat? What puts wind in your sails?
What DO you do? Apart from being that business thingie at work? And if you don't do anything at the moment - what would you LIKE to do?
Kev - sit back for a moment - project yourself forward - say in 6 months time - tell us what you would like to look back on as an achievement? Apart from - of course - anything to do with your Wife! Give us 3 things - 1 of which can be to do with your kids!
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2. -
3. -
You need goals...if ever a man needed goals you do...
Folks here can and will help...but you need to give more of an indication that you're willing to step up and try than you have...
To date your efforts have been less than half-hearted on that front and I'm sorry to say from my reading weak and whiny - Kev you need to get pro-active.
Proactive is scary to a guy who is not...cos you will start making mistakes - and I understand that...but mistakes show you how not to make mistakes...in the future.
I'm almost afraid of suggesting this; cos I'm referencing your W in this, but from everything that you've posted...a determination on your front to actually do something proactive, that is genuine to you and to stick with it, would be the first for you and best 180 ever seen on these boards.
Kev - at the moment I see you as the Jedi of Procrastination - its the most undesirable quality of man...
Right now...you're paralysed...and you'll atrophy if you're not careful - in fact I think you're close if not touching that quality right now...
That might be where you want to be? To be the victim in this and then blame your W for what's she's done...
Is that it Kev - that you want folks to feel sorry for you? I'm afraid that's not working here...
Is there a weird psychology going on? If you keep posting as you do and then people get frustrated and p!ssed off and leave -does that confirm to you that they don't understand? Don't understand your particular and unique circumstances?
Kev - you have got a goldmine in the responses to your posts...What it needs though is for you to set aside any notion of pride, and belligerence that is borne out of a sense of righteousness and start acting positively / pro-actively.
