How long was I "done" ~ this is hard to say. We both knew there were problems. Of course, we didn't talk about them b/c the 'image' of the happy, perfect family - once achieved - is tough to pry your fingers off of. So pinpointing exactly when I decided on "done" is tough. I will say that there were some compelling events - really bad arguements - that helped me to articulate what we were really dealing with.
The road to unhappiness in a marriage is sooooo long - it's hard for either one of the poor souls in it to identify where the wrong turns were made. Often when WAS begins to talk about those wrong turns, folks say that's rewriting history. Perhaps. But some of those wrong turns really were...wrong turns.
We were not separated long - maybe 4 months.
Making changes for YOURSELF is the key. Why? Well, when I began to notice Coach's new, fab self, I doubted it. I was very cautious, thinking this might just be him reeling me in with fresh paint, only to get back to the same weak M we had before. But I observe that Coach heard what I said as I was screeching out of the driveway, took his share of the responsibility and did the work to be a better man. So the changes were not just fresh paint, but real structure. Big difference.
Cheers ~~~
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
