Well, I'm saying she says those things to get a reaction out of you- to get your pity- your attention etc. She wants you to feel guilty again.
She needs a fix- she makes you feel bad- she feels good. Make sense? When you feel guilty it's like she's getting a shot of some drug she needs.
Exactly. That is why you follow Sandi, Stuck, Coach, PDT, mine and other's advice and set your boundaries and stick to them. Don't let her manipulate you into a R talk about the past. Just do what you have been doing and say "that is the past if you don't want to let go of it that's your problem" and move on...
You're doing great! Keep enforcing those boundaries. She will eventually realize that you're not willing to "get in the mud".
