Best advice I got was. "Stay out of wife's bubble" and "Stay in kids bubble"

IE: Be the best dad you can and do not pursue wife. Let her figure out her garbage....You work on YOU.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712