I hate my H

[Done in VA]

From the description of the bad MC session, it sounded like a who's going to win? session. Who can make the other one cry first....

I did not say one thing in MC that was intended to hurt H. As constructive criticism, what did I say that gives you this impression? Just want to know how it could have come off that way.

Maybe it's time to put your issues aside. Maybe each of you create a list of crap that is pissing you off including actions and subjects. (meaning when he forgets to pick up the milk or you hate talking about cows and he always brings them up....) And tell him, Truce. Let's put all this crap on the side for now...take out the negative stuff and fill this relationship back up with some positive feelings. Then when we are more solid more positive go back and revisit those problems/issues...whatever.

How do you get someone who is unwilling to do any work on the R to do this?

I'm no therapist for sure but some of those questions your MC asked both of you....well, hell, of course you're upset. The MC actually told your husband to look you in your eyes and say my feelings for you have not changed.....??? Seriously, how does that help you? It sounds like it reinforces his feelings for you and your marriage are bye bye forever.

I agree