I hate my H

[Done in VA]

I have to disagree with you. I don't want to win. I want to make my changes & hopefully be able to rebuild a new R with the father of my children. I don't believe I am trying to win in MC. I am just trying to work on myself & answer questions that MC asks. If I wanted to be right, I would say to heck with you, I'm fine the way I am, lots of other people like me, you obviously don't love me unconditionally, SEE YA.

I think I have finally become able to detach. I have finally become able to make my changes for ME. I have stopped living in fear. I don't worry about getting a divorce anymore. If H is going to do it, I can't stop him. Of course you always hang onto your hopes & dreams, but they may not always be fulfilled the way I think they should.

I'm outside of DC as well.

Do you think I should ask him to describe a great marriage? In MC maybe?

Yes, I know how I envision a great marriage. 2 people who are best friends & live their lives as equals. Always putting the other above themselves. If there is a stalemate in decision-making, one differs to the other, knowing that the other loves their family & will make the best decision they can for all of us. Never keeping score.