Unfortunatly this will make me a 2 time looser. I've been thru it before and it was really nasty but there were kids and custody and that type of stuff involved. This time there will be mostly just the house to deal with and the financial implications of that, and I'm willing to walk from it with basically nothing. We've always kept our finances seperate - we have no shared credit cards or bank accounts so that part shouldn't be all that difficult.
I'm hopeful that she/we can be rational and professional about this and just deal with it on a businss type level as apposed to an emotional one. I am confident that I can. She's really angry and emotional so we'll see but she's been thru it twice herself before so is familiar with the process. If we can "work together" and not try to screw each other over I think we can part without us both being financially ruined. If not and the house goes into forclosure I think we are both screwed financially and credit wise.
Biggest impact really IMO is going to be on my daughter. My wife is the only "mother" that my daughter has really known as her real Mom isn't around. She's 9 now. I'm going to need to pay particular attention to her during and after this transition.
