I really don't think that it's the money issue. One of the things she told me was that her mom raised her and her sister as a single parent with very little money, so she can too. Before she would tell me stories about how they were so broke that the three of them would share one pack of dried noodles between them. Money's never been an issue for her.
I think it is a big issue. I am a financial advisor and I see this a lot. How people were brought up around the kitchen table speaks volumes about how they feel about money. I can understand how she could want to be frugal but if she was literally hungry because if a lack of money it is a source of insecurity. Does your W understand about your finances? Could be a great way to connect emotionally to her. Cheers
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